Relationships
First, I just wanna say how moved I am that folks are thinking in these ways. It is a deep principle that I carry that we all are capable of healing and growing. I use that language of difficult people specifically because overachieving trauma survivors tend to move with a growth mindset. We tend to think it can be fixed, it can be changed, it can be grown. And that capacity can be a tremendous gift – the capacity to see what’s possible beyond the hard moments.
What do badass boundaries have to do with cultivating sexual energy? Join certified sex therapist, Liz Dube, and I as we talk about the importance of setting badass boundaries in order to give yourself permission for a juicy sex life. You’ll learn: the # 1 mental shift to make when you’re ready to reclaim your […]
So many of the couples and intimate partners I see complain of schedule overwhelm. Whether they’re worried about a lack of sex and intimate connection or incongruencies around childcare and housekeeping, time is, for many, a key barrier to feeling intimately connected. While it is true that the pace of life is faster and faster […]
The other day I was having a conversation with a woman who, though she identifies as staunchly monogamous, was curious about the group program I’m offering for couples who are interested in exploring open relationships. She kept telling me how difficult it was for her to grasp why anyone would choose an open relationship. We […]
I recently posted this TED talk with Ester Perel, author of Mating in Captivity, on Facebook. She’s talking about how to sustain desire in long term relationships. I really enjoyed the talk because she did such a good job naming the impediments to maintaining a satisfying level of sexual intimacy over time. Often when I’m […]
It seems obvious to most people that boundaries are a necessary part of life. We say “yes” to some things and “no” to others. Yet many of us struggle to say no, especially when it feels like that “no” threatens to hurt an important relationship. Often when I first start working with someone around having […]
It seems like it should be easy, telling the truth. Most people start their open relationships assuming that truth-telling is a no-brainer. That’s the point of being polyamorous, right? You get to be open and honest about your multiple attractions and love interests. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always turn out to be so easy. Where is […]
One of the questions I get asked over and over again by people embarking on the path of responsible non-monogamy is, “How does it actually work?” It can sound like a great idea in principle, but in practice? So I’ve decided to devote my next few posts to exploring some of the essential skills that […]
