I recently posted this TED talk with Ester Perel, author of Mating in Captivity, on Facebook. She’s talking about how to sustain desire in long term relationships. I really enjoyed the talk because she did such a good job naming the impediments to maintaining a satisfying level of sexual intimacy over time. Often when I’m […]
It seems obvious to most people that boundaries are a necessary part of life. We say “yes” to some things and “no” to others. Yet many of us struggle to say no, especially when it feels like that “no” threatens to hurt an important relationship. Often when I first start working with someone around having […]
I just watched this video of time-lapse photography, accompanied by words from Benedictine monk Brother David Steindl-Rast, and I decided to share it. I’ve been thinking a lot about the mythology surrounding the American Thanksgiving holiday. It is beautiful to devote a day to the practice of thanks-giving… of offering gratitude for the land on […]
It seems like it should be easy, telling the truth. Most people start their open relationships assuming that truth-telling is a no-brainer. That’s the point of being polyamorous, right? You get to be open and honest about your multiple attractions and love interests. Unfortunately, it doesn’t always turn out to be so easy. Where is […]
One of the questions I get asked over and over again by people embarking on the path of responsible non-monogamy is, “How does it actually work?” It can sound like a great idea in principle, but in practice? So I’ve decided to devote my next few posts to exploring some of the essential skills that […]
