Sonya Brewer
Sonya Brewer, MA, is a body-centered psychotherapist, somatic coach and relationship specialist in Albany, CA, where she specializes in creative life and relationship design for “out the box” thinkers (and “feelers”).
She loves helping quirky people find their creative voice and express their unique ways of being so that they can feel more alive, connected and authentic in their lives and relationships, while also bringing their gifts to the world.
Sonya brings over twenty years of experience, backed by in-depth training in somatic psychology, relational psychotherapy, relationship therapy and somatic coaching as taught by Generative Somatics and the Strozzi Institute, as well as training in trauma recovery through the Sensorimotor Psychotherapy and Somatic Experiencing Institutes. Sonya's body-based work is also deeply influenced by a lifetime of experience as a dancer, years of mindfulness meditation practice, and training and experience as a professional bodyworker.
To learn more, visit www.sonyabrewer.com.
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #89901
First, I just wanna say how moved I am that folks are thinking in these ways. It is a deep principle that I carry that we all are capable of healing and growing. I use that language of difficult people specifically because overachieving trauma survivors tend to move with a growth mindset. We tend to think it can be fixed, it can be changed, it can be grown. And that capacity can be a tremendous gift – the capacity to see what’s possible beyond the hard moments.
What do badass boundaries have to do with cultivating sexual energy? Join certified sex therapist, Liz Dube, and I as we talk about the importance of setting badass boundaries in order to give yourself permission for a juicy sex life. You’ll learn: the # 1 mental shift to make when you’re ready to reclaim your […]
This week, I’m answering a boundary question that came in from an entrepreneur who asked how she could get more grounded and confident charging what she’s worth. The first thing I want you to do is stop talking about your fees and your worth in the same sentence! Your worth is unmeasurable. You are too […]
As you know, we are talking a lot about boundaries as we prepare for the launch of my new program, Badass Boundaries for Overachieving Trauma Survivors, and I’m hearing from many of you about your boundary challenges and questions. Some of your questions have been so good, that I just couldn’t wait. So I decided to respond to a few here in my blog over the coming weeks.
So this post is in response to the person who asked how to increase their sense of safety so they can stay present when it’s time to make a boundary. They said that when they need to make a boundary, they find themselves going kind of numb and disconnecting, and they wanted to stay present and connected, in particular with their loved ones, when they needed to set a limit.
I used to think that I was good at self care. I was in really good psychotherapy. I got acupuncture and chiropractic support regularly. I exercised, meditated and took vacations, danced and practiced singing. I didn’t cook enough meals at home, but when I did they were healthy and delicious. And maybe, in these ways, […]
In 1966, William Masters and Virginia Johnson published Human Sexual Response in which they described a four-stage sequence of physiological changes that occur as people (in particular, heterosexual couples having penile-vaginal intercourse) engage in sexually stimulating activities. This “sexual response cycle” model was revolutionary at the time because there really wasn’t a systematic view of what went on biologically […]
Inevitably, when a woman comes in complaining about having a low libido, I get curious about the power dynamics in the her relationship. What dance is she and her partner (or partners) engaged in? What is her relationship to power? Does she have a sense of personal authority, both in her relationship and in the rest […]
So many of the couples and intimate partners I see complain of schedule overwhelm. Whether they’re worried about a lack of sex and intimate connection or incongruencies around childcare and housekeeping, time is, for many, a key barrier to feeling intimately connected. While it is true that the pace of life is faster and faster […]
Like many people, I have a list of daily self-care rituals that I strive to maintain – meditation, exercise, preparing good food for the day… I figure, if I’m going to help people take better care of themselves, I also need to be a model for that kind of self-love. Lately, however, I’ve been noticing […]
The other day I was having a conversation with a woman who, though she identifies as staunchly monogamous, was curious about the group program I’m offering for couples who are interested in exploring open relationships. She kept telling me how difficult it was for her to grasp why anyone would choose an open relationship. We […]
