What do badass boundaries have to do with cultivating sexual energy?

Written by on April 29, 2022 in Relationships, Self Care, Sexuality with 0 Comments
What do badass boundaries have to do with cultivating sexual energy?

What do badass boundaries have to do with cultivating sexual energy? Join certified sex therapist, Liz Dube, and I as we talk about the importance of setting badass boundaries in order to give yourself permission for a juicy sex life. You’ll learn: the # 1 mental shift to make when you’re ready to reclaim your […]

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Charging What You’re Worth

Written by on April 20, 2022 in Self Care with 0 Comments

This week, I’m answering a boundary question that came in from an entrepreneur who asked how she could get more grounded and confident charging what she’s worth. The first thing I want you to do is stop talking about your fees and your worth in the same sentence! Your worth is unmeasurable. You are too […]

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How do I increase my sense of safety

Written by on March 23, 2022 in Self Care, Skills for Embodied Living with 0 Comments
How do I increase my sense of safety

As you know, we are talking a lot about boundaries as we prepare for the launch of my new program, Badass Boundaries for Overachieving Trauma Survivors, and I’m hearing from many of you about your boundary challenges and questions. Some of your questions have been so good, that I just couldn’t wait. So I decided to respond to a few here in my blog over the coming weeks.

So this post is in response to the person who asked how to increase their sense of safety so they can stay present when it’s time to make a boundary. They said that when they need to make a boundary, they find themselves going kind of numb and disconnecting, and they wanted to stay present and connected, in particular with their loved ones, when they needed to set a limit.

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What Pandemic Life Is Teaching Me About Rest

What Pandemic Life Is Teaching Me About Rest

I used to think that I was good at self care.  I was in really good psychotherapy.  I got acupuncture and chiropractic support regularly.  I exercised, meditated and took vacations, danced and practiced singing.  I didn’t cook enough meals at home, but when I did they were healthy and delicious. And maybe, in these ways, […]

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Adventures in Woman-Centered Sexuality: A Critique of Masters & Johnson’s Human Sexual Response Cycle

Written by on January 5, 2017 in Cultural Studies, Sexuality with 1 Comment
Adventures in Woman-Centered Sexuality: A Critique of Masters & Johnson’s Human Sexual Response Cycle

In 1966, William Masters and Virginia Johnson published Human Sexual Response in which they described a four-stage sequence of physiological changes that occur as people (in particular, heterosexual couples having penile-vaginal intercourse) engage in sexually stimulating activities. This “sexual response cycle” model was revolutionary at the time because there really wasn’t a systematic view of what went on biologically […]

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What’s Power Got to Do With It When It Comes to Women’s Sexuality?

Written by on November 30, 2016 in Sexuality with 0 Comments
What’s Power Got to Do With It When It Comes to Women’s Sexuality?

Inevitably, when a woman comes in complaining about having a low libido, I get curious about the power dynamics in the her relationship.  What dance is she and her partner (or partners) engaged in?  What is her relationship to power?  Does she have a sense of personal authority, both in her relationship and in the rest […]

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Bring Back Date Night! Strategies for Couples Who Struggle with Scheduling Overwhelm

Written by on March 9, 2015 in Love, Relationships, Sexuality with 2 Comments
Bring Back Date Night! Strategies for Couples Who Struggle with Scheduling Overwhelm

So many of the couples and intimate partners I see complain of schedule overwhelm. Whether they’re worried about a lack of sex and intimate connection or incongruencies around childcare and housekeeping, time is, for many, a key barrier to feeling intimately connected.   While it is true that the pace of life is faster and faster […]

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Lessons in Time Management

Written by on January 28, 2014 in Mental Health, Skills for Embodied Living with 1 Comment

Like many people, I have a list of daily self-care rituals that I strive to maintain – meditation, exercise, preparing good food for the day… I figure, if I’m going to help people take better care of themselves, I also need to be a model for that kind of self-love. Lately, however, I’ve been noticing […]

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3 Common Reasons Couples Explore Open Relationships

The other day I was having a conversation with a woman who, though she identifies as staunchly monogamous, was curious about the group program I’m offering for couples who are interested in exploring open relationships.  She kept telling me how difficult it was for her to grasp why anyone would choose an open relationship.  We […]

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Sustaining Eroticism in Long Term Relationships

Written by on December 17, 2013 in Love, Relationships, Sexuality, Skills for Embodied Living with 4 Comments

I recently posted this TED talk with Ester Perel, author of Mating in Captivity, on Facebook.  She’s talking about how to sustain desire in long term relationships.  I really enjoyed the talk because she did such a good job naming the impediments to maintaining a satisfying level of sexual intimacy over time. Often when I’m […]

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